WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT
(Note to readers: Getting free images from Google no longer words. One must subscribe to various sites which I do not want to do. These are older images which fit before the change. Sigh.) I was reminded of this when I recently expressed deep concerns about a family member whose health issues have significantly worsened and the response I received from a friend was not what I had hoped for. Back in the day when I was undergoing chemo (thanks for saving my life, but fuck you for giving me Dysautonomia and neuropathy!), folks at our UCC church sometimes would strike the right note in responding to my pale, limpy self, and others not so much. One dude, whom I loved, would ask, "How're you feeling, Annie?" I wanted to shout, "WHAT D'YA THINK? I FEEL LIKE CRAP!" But my good manners prevented this. One woman bustled up to me with the most ghastly pattern for a cap with ties to make once I was bald. Being the fashionista I am, I think I may not have been as